Can Role Play Spice Up Your Sex Life?

Sex is always great in the beginning of a new relationship, but without the thrill of discovery or without anything new to look forward to the lust gradually wears off. If this is happening to you, role playing can add some sexual adventure and excitement back into your sex life!

How role playing spices up your sex life:

  • It lowers your inhibitions
  • Most people don’t even try role-playing because they feel insecure or inhibited by what they think their sex partner will think of them. But they’re probably just not realizing their partner is probably as turned on and excited to try something new as they are. Just be sure to talk about what you want to do and make sure your insecurities are addressed before you dive in to try role play.

  • You can choose who you want to be (in the bedroom)
  • Role play allows you to choose whoever you want to be in the bedroom. From the policeman or woman and burglar to the teacher-student fantasy affair, or even just pretending your sex partner is a random stranger you pick up in a bar, you will always have a wide variety of role playing character options to choose from.

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  • Role play boosts your sexual confidence
  • By trying something new, you’ll be more aware of your body so sexual role playing can boost your physical self confidence. Having better confidence in your role play character can give you better all-around self confidence, which can lead to GREAT sex.

    Do it right! Try to “get into character” as much as you can – use the right costumes, makeup and props, and be sure to find the right music that fits the mood and theme you are trying to create. But don’t go too crazy at first, If you are new to role play, try to keep it simple, you can gradually amp up your sexual role play fantasies as you both get more creative, and confident, in what you want to do. And who you want to be.

    Why Is Role Play So Hot?

    1. Why Is Role Play So Hot?  

      Role playing is a game, you choose a character you want to be and your partner plays the adjoining role with the idea of getting totally into that character. It’s almost like making your own porno, so pretending to be in one could even be the next, or first, role play scenario you can try.

      Role playing sex is a break from normal. A chance for you to explore your sexual fantasies and kinks outside of your normal sex routine, allowing you to become anyone you want, and do anything you want to do during sex play. Whether you act like a sexy couple from a movie, a sports star and cheerleader, or a handyman and a hot housewife, anything is possible when you’re role playing. And during role play sex you can talk dirty, and anything that turns you on with your lover, saying sexy things you probably would never say on a regular sex night.

      And you get to play dress up! One of the hottest things about role play sex is you have total control over the ‘scene’. You can role play by simply taking on a certain character and talking dirty to each other,or you can also choose to have more elaborate scenes – ones with costumes and gear.

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    How to role play really well

    1. Here’s how to role play really well 

      Whatever kind of sex related or kinky role play starts from one place – your imagination!

      The pulse.ng says that whether you get elaborate or keep it simple, role playing is all really just about doing what turns you on.. They list a few ways that you can try to help get you started:

      1. Think about your fantasies
      Think about what turns you on, in role play you’re limited only by your imagination.

      2. Tell your partner about your fantasies
      Some role play fantasies can be spontaneous, others need a bit of preparation.

      3. Make it kinky
      And about who has the power. One of you has power over the other and can have your way with the other; teacher and student, officer and criminal?

      4. Start slow
      You might feel uncomfortable at first, even if the idea of it turns you on. So start small and slow. Try sexting your partner about your fantasy first, before you get home from work.

      5. Get dressed
      If dressing up helps you get into character, go for it. If you’re not sure what to go for, try the old classics; maid, nurse, secretary…

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    How to Begin Your Sexual Role Playing Adventure

    For some, the phrase ‘role play’ can send a shiver of excitement down our spines, but for others it’s might be more an uncomfortable chill of fear. But it doesn’t have to be. Many people find it easier than others to develop a new ‘part-time’ persona to explore sexual situations they normally would never do, which allows allows them to experience greater fulfillment and brings them closer to their partner.

    A recent survey said that 73% of couples had experimented with role play at some time in their lives, but if you’re a beginner, how do you get into it without feeling weird?

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    Annabelle Knight,a leading Relationship & Sex Expert in the UK, gives practical advice for first time role players to femalefirst.co.uk. First, know what you want. Annabelle says if you’re thinking about bringing role play to your sex life it’s important to think about what you want to get out of it, and choose the right role playing situations that fit. For example, if you want to try bondage for the first time and you don’t want to just be “yourself”, try a police themed role play scenario and use handcuffs. Want to play the more submissive type? Try playing the secretary and boss, or doctor/nurse role playing themes.

    Then, once you know what you want, talk through it. Annabelle suggests that you explain exactly what you want to happen in your role-playing sex fantasy. If your partner knows exactly what you’re after it’s easier to improvise around the ‘plot’.

    After you plan your theme and choose your outfit, ie; police officer, business suit, nurse outfit, etc., think about your “setting”. Are you in an interrogation room, a business office, classroom, hospital bed? Try to make your setting fit the feel.

    Other beginner role playing ideas could include acting as sexy strangers that meet for the first time somewhere, like at a local hotel bar, or even playing a hitchhiker. Wear a wig or other disguise, develop your stories, and let the flirtation begin!