Called fun, sexy ‘breath play’, is choking women all the rage

  1. Choking women is all the rage. It’s branded as fun, sexy ‘breath play’ 

    Since the #MeToo movement, people are learning many men see choking women as a legitimate form of “sex play”, as it’s often referred to in porn.

    But according to on domestic violence, the women most at risk of being murdered by their partners are those who were choked.

    In probably the most hypocritical case, New York state attorney general Eric Schneiderman, who recently announced he was pursuing a lawsuit against Harvey Weinstein for “despicable” behavior, was forced to resign after four women accused him of choking them and committing other types of physical assault. Schneiderman has disputed the allegations saying he had only consensual sexual relations.

    Is the ease of accessing internet porn the main driver for the increase in sexually abusive acts, such as choking? According to a study of US college students, researchers said 62% of the men surveyed showed that those who view pornography are “significantly less likely to intervene as a bystander, report an increased behavioral intent to rape, and are more likely to believe rape myths.”

    Choking, or “breath play” as it is often referred to, is also being re-branded as “edgy, hot sex” that somehow gives the woman power, according to Women’s Health Magazine, who recently promoted the act suggesting it can “be an exhilarating experience for some people”.

     The Guardian

Are the Schneiderman Allegations Sexual Role-Play, or Abuse

  1. Schneiderman Allegations Aren’t Sexual ‘Role-Playing’ – They’re Abuse  

    When multiple women accused the former Attorney General of assault, he said it was BDSM. But that’s not what sex play looks like.

    RollingStone.com

  2. Eric Schneiderman and Men Who Excuse Violence As ‘Kink’  The Cut
  3. ‘Brown Slave’: Disgraced Eric Schneiderman Was Apparently Into Racist Role Playing During Sex  News One
  4. The Problem With ‘Feminist’ Men  New York Times
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How Consent and BDSM Role-Play Actually Works

  1. Here’s How Consent and BDSM Role-Play Should Actually Work

    Role playing means two people have a conversation and decide, “I think this sounds really hot, now how can we sensibly play this out?”

    But you have to negotiate before you start playing. When you negotiate, you talk transparently about what you like, your no-go zones, and you say what you might or might not be be okay with.

    If you slap, learn how to do it safely and be prepared to support each other emotionally. An article in thecut.com explains, in great detail, ways to enjoy BDSM and sexual role play without crossing the line, including:

    • Responsible BDSM players do not negotiate or play while intoxicated.
    • A master-slave contract takes time, thought, and sensitivity to negotiate.
    • Race play requires extra-sensitive negotiation and consent.
    • All roeplay requires an affirmative yes from both partners to all planned activities.
    • Always establish a safe word.
    • Accidents happen even when there is consent and proper preparation, but there’s a way to deal with that.
    • Consent is ongoing, and it can be rescinded at any time.

     The Cut