Can Role Play Spice Up Your Sex Life?

Sex is always great in the beginning of a new relationship, but without the thrill of discovery or without anything new to look forward to the lust gradually wears off. If this is happening to you, role playing can add some sexual adventure and excitement back into your sex life!

How role playing spices up your sex life:

  • It lowers your inhibitions
  • Most people don’t even try role-playing because they feel insecure or inhibited by what they think their sex partner will think of them. But they’re probably just not realizing their partner is probably as turned on and excited to try something new as they are. Just be sure to talk about what you want to do and make sure your insecurities are addressed before you dive in to try role play.

  • You can choose who you want to be (in the bedroom)
  • Role play allows you to choose whoever you want to be in the bedroom. From the policeman or woman and burglar to the teacher-student fantasy affair, or even just pretending your sex partner is a random stranger you pick up in a bar, you will always have a wide variety of role playing character options to choose from.

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  • Role play boosts your sexual confidence
  • By trying something new, you’ll be more aware of your body so sexual role playing can boost your physical self confidence. Having better confidence in your role play character can give you better all-around self confidence, which can lead to GREAT sex.

    Do it right! Try to “get into character” as much as you can – use the right costumes, makeup and props, and be sure to find the right music that fits the mood and theme you are trying to create. But don’t go too crazy at first, If you are new to role play, try to keep it simple, you can gradually amp up your sexual role play fantasies as you both get more creative, and confident, in what you want to do. And who you want to be.

    Psychology Today: Most Americans Have Tried Unconventional Sex

    Sex is adult play. Like in any playground, there are many possibilities, none better or worse than the other. it doesn’t matter how adults “twist the sheets”. It’s play. It’s pleasure, and erotic pleasure is uniquely individual.

    Psychology Today says that what passes for “conventional lovemaking” today for some – heterosexual kissing, cuddling, vaginal intercourse and maybe some oral sex, most Americans have played with sex in other ways.

    Some of their more interesting findings were:

    • More than half of American women own at least one vibrator.
    • Most Americans lose their virginity in their late teens, mostly around 17 years old, which is just one or two years later than today’s grandparents did.
    • Premarital sex is universal, 95 percent of Americans were not virgins on their wedding nights.
    • 15 to 20 percent of American men patronize sex workers, prostitutes, at some point in their lives.
    • Eleven percent of Americans (around 30 million people) are not exclusively heterosexual.
    • Before age 50, 40 percent of Americans have experimented with oral-anal sex (analingus), penis-anus intercourse, sphincter massage, fingering or toy insertions.
    • Many Americans with chronic conditions and disabilities can’t play conventional sex roles and make love in other ways.
    • Many elderly lovers can’t accomplish intercourse, so they instead play sex with hand jobs, oral, toys, and even some other forms of kinky sex.
    • About 20 percent of American adults have had group sex, or engaged in threesomes, polyamory or swinging.
    • Indiana University researchers surveyed 2,021 American adults and found many enjoyed BDSM: spanking (30%), dominant/submissive role playing (22%), restraint (20%), whipping and flogging (13%). 43 percent had played sexually in public.
    • The number one erotic fantasy is to have sex with someone else other than one’s regular partner.

    We all now must think long and hard before we label any sex play weird or deviant, there is no normal. So we must be careful when calling anything abnormal.

    We All Know What Foreplay is, But What is Afterplay

    Sex Play; This is why after sex, AfterPlay is just as important as ForePlay

    We all know that foreplay is the best way to get into an aroused sexual state, by heightening our intimate sensations, and that foreplay sex also increases the chances of women reaching orgasm. But apparently there’s another sex play stage that most couples are missing out on.

    According to Love guru Annabelle Knight in, “afterplay” is actually the secret to maintaining an enjoyable experience in the bedroom.

    Annabelle says if you usually end up rolling over and falling asleep after having sex, then you could be damaging your relationship. But by just engaging in a bit of afterplay, which simply involves spending a little more time with your partner after you had sex, you can help to strengthen your bond.

    “If you think of sex as a long distance race, then foreplay is your warm up, the race itself is your sex session, and afterplay is your cool down. When you look at it like that it’s clear that it should be an important part of your sexual scenarios.” Annbelle said.

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    “By including a longer post sex routine you may find it helps to boost your interest in sex altogether, resulting in better sex, and more of it,” Annabelle said in her interview, continuing, “The core of great sex is feeling emotionally and physically attached to your partner, this is why afterplay is so important, but it’s often marginalised or completely ignored, which can lead to ill feeling between partners.”

    She added that the easiest way to dabble in afterplay is simply by kissing and cuddling after having sex. Or you can shower together, or by giving each another a massage, anything to extend the time of your physical contact after sex.

    Another way to extend your afterplay after sex is to talk about what turned you both on during your lovemaking session. Just by discussing it with one another can lead to even better sexual experiences in your sex play future.

    Why Is Role Play So Hot?

    1. Why Is Role Play So Hot?  

      Role playing is a game, you choose a character you want to be and your partner plays the adjoining role with the idea of getting totally into that character. It’s almost like making your own porno, so pretending to be in one could even be the next, or first, role play scenario you can try.

      Role playing sex is a break from normal. A chance for you to explore your sexual fantasies and kinks outside of your normal sex routine, allowing you to become anyone you want, and do anything you want to do during sex play. Whether you act like a sexy couple from a movie, a sports star and cheerleader, or a handyman and a hot housewife, anything is possible when you’re role playing. And during role play sex you can talk dirty, and anything that turns you on with your lover, saying sexy things you probably would never say on a regular sex night.

      And you get to play dress up! One of the hottest things about role play sex is you have total control over the ‘scene’. You can role play by simply taking on a certain character and talking dirty to each other,or you can also choose to have more elaborate scenes – ones with costumes and gear.