What is the Anal Sex 45-Degree Rule

Have you ever heard of the “45-degree rule” for having anal sex? Not many people have, but according to refinery29.com, besides anal lube it’s the best key to enjoyable anal sex play for both men and women.

When inserting anal beads, a butt plug, a dildo or penis inside the anus, don’t just “stick it in your butt and go”. The 45-degree rule refers to the angle in which you are tilting the object into the butt. So if you want to take your anal sex butt play to the next level and unlock erogenous zones you never even knew you had, start using the 45-degree rule as soon as you can.

Warm Up With Butt Plugs – at an Angle

Since going straight for anal can cause pain, and nobody wants that, you’ll have to warm up the ass for sex play first.

Certified sex educator and sex toy company ‘b-Vibe’ CEO, Alicia Sinclaire, told the online magazine that focuses on young women that she recommends using butt plugs, “Butt plugs apply pressure and push towards the clitoral structure or prostate. They can definitely be used as a warm up for penetration, but they can also be an awesome main course,”

Because the anus muscle requires some extra work to be ready for penetration with bigger objects, butt plugs not only warm up the anus for penetration for the larger sex toys or penis, but they also stimulate the prostate and the anus opening, creating a feeling of fullness.

“If you’re having difficulty getting your butt plug in, warm up with a finger or two first and use lots of lube. Help your body open-up before you try using an anal sex toy.”

So how does the 45 degree rule come into play? The best way to slide your anal sex toys in and out of the anus, for easier insertion and best pleasure, is at an optimal angle, “Slowly angle the toy downward about 45 degrees, so that one side of the bulb slides inside the anus. Keep the toy at that depth, and then gently angle the toy upward about 45 degrees,” Sinclair said.

“Go back and forth like that a few times, gently going a bit further in with each change in direction. It’s similar to the way you can get a tight pair of jeans on by shimmying your hips side to side, but a lot slower. Once the bulb is past the internal anal muscle, the toy should slip into place.”

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Because the A-spot is located at the inner ends of the vagina between the cervix and bladder, some women can actually reach the back of the clitoris through anal sex. Not every woman will feel the stimulation, but there is no harm in trying.

Sinclaire says, “If you own a vulva, anal orgasms can often happen through indirect stimulation of the erogenous zones inside the vagina. The G-spot and A-spot, are key places for pleasurable stimulation through the shared wall between the vagina and rectum.”

She said deep penetrative positions, such as doggy style, can help to hit the A-spot. The 45-degree rule applies here also, “Once in position, you’ll want to instruct your partner to angle 45 degrees upward (toward your belly button).”

The person on the bottom, or person receiving anal stimulation, is always in control. Move back and forth on your partner’s penis or dildo while arching your back.

Since every person’s body is different, you’ll have to be patient to find out what works for you. It will probably take time to find the right way to stimulate your partner (or yourself) during anal sex for optimal pleasure, but once you’ve done it, you’re in for quite a treat!

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6 Good Ways to Avoid Any Unwanted Sexual Infections

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    Emily Morse, the founder and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, told popsugar.com, “Go for the triple play when it comes to preventing infection: wash up, wrap up, and flush out.”

    The doctor of human sexuality continued, “First, before any touching starts, make sure both you and your partner have clean hands — especially under the nails. Next, use a condom, for obvious reasons. Finally, make sure to pee before AND after penetration to ward off UTIs. Of course, you can also suggest some shower sex to maximize cleanliness.”

    Psychologist and sex expert Antonia Hall added important tips that everyone can do to help avoid unwanted infections from sexual activity:

    • Wash Your Hands Prior to Getting Intimate
    • Pee Before and After
    • Don’t Do Anything Else After Anal Without Cleaning Up First
    • Avoid Oral Sex With Unfamiliar Partners
    • Wear a Condom During Sex
    • Wash Up After Sex (and clean your sex toys right away)

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Sex, drugs and disease: Party and play

  1. Sex, drugs and disease: The deadly mix (Part 1: Party and play)  

    Five naked men sleeping on two couches and on the carpet were captured in a series of photos on a mobile phone. He was the first to wake up the morning after an all-night party so he took pictures before leaving. One of the naked men is a celebrity.

    The photos on his phone are for “a few-minute-keepsakes” he promised himself he would delete and not show anyone.

    “Party and play,” also called P&P or PnP, is what it’s called with men who meet to have casual nonstop sex and use a a mixture of drugs, liquor or energy drinks to lower their lower inhibitions, and engage in group sex. PnP has many names, including “partee’ and play,” “chemsex session,” “fly high,” “rave,” “slam,” “chill” and “circuit party,” and the drugs reportedly boost physical activity and prolongs penile erections for sustained sex with multiple partners (everyone in the party!), often done without condoms. They engage in “bareback,” during fellatio, blowjobs, oral sex, and penetrative anal sex, hence the term “bareback orgy.

    Read more at ABS-CBN News