If you’re curious about the erotic sexual power play of BDSM but don’t quite feel ready enough yet to invest and play in a full scale dungeon, Allure.com magazine just listed some of the BDSM sex tips and advice that you can try if you are a total beginner:

1. Talk through your interests and boundaries
2. Try out some dirty talk
3. Add a blindfold
4. Explore orgasm control
5. Buy a massage candle
6. Learn the ropes
7. Slip on a pair of handcuffs
8. Play dress-up

There is no shame in being new to BDSM. “BDSM doesn’t require any money,” sex therapist Michael Aaron told Allure. “Much of it is psychological, and if you are looking for impact play, many people feel like no toy beats their hands anyway, and that’s free. Likewise, various household items such as rope and clothespins can be used in scenes, and they hardly cost anything at all.”