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Role play in foreplay enhances sexual experience

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A user question in the column ‘Putting Dr G on the spot’” in the “health & wellness section of the Enquirer.net, a recently married women trying to conceive is concerned about her husband’s sexual performance. She wrote, “I think my husband is nervous and anxious, especially due to pressure from the family to have a baby. He tends to rush into the “business” and this can be a turn off for me, resulting in disappointment.”

“I initiated sex a few times, asking him to focus on foreplay and take things slower. I even suggested role-play in the foreplay to help us relax…My husband was excited with the whole idea, but simply clueless of where to start… what scenario would be best for role-play for beginners like us?

Dr.George Lee, a consultant Urologist and Clinical Associate Professor, answered that sexual role-play during foreplay is generally a good way to overcome such inhibition.

“Foreplay is generally considered intimate behavior between couples to generate emotional and physical readiness for sexual activities” Dr. G responded, “The initiation is by far the most important step in foreplay… The process can begin with non-physical gesture of whispering, teasing and flirting to generate sexual interests.”

Dr. G said it’s not uncommon for inexperienced newlywed couples to have sexual intimacy problems due to shyness and inhibitions, and since these sexual inhibitions can create a negative impact, certain people can feel uncomfortable and even think acts of kissing and caressing are intrusive. “Role play in foreplay is generally a good way to overcome such inhibition.”, Dr. George said.

He explained, “Physiologically, role-play of different scenario creates certain levels of confidence and trust between couples to intensify intimacy. Role-play can have strong erotic elements, involving couples to act out roles in sexual fantasy. Typical fantasy would be medical fetishism of doctor and nurse, or office scenario of executive and secretary.”

“The success of role-play in foreplay to enhance sexual experience is only achievable when both parties are willing to communicate and explore.”

The doctor quoted former NBA professional basketball player Michael Jordan, saying, “Just play, have fun and enjoy the game!”

Dr. G’s advice on role playing: “Just play, have fun and enjoy each other!”

We All Know What Foreplay is, But What is Afterplay

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Sex Play; This is why after sex, AfterPlay is just as important as ForePlay

We all know that foreplay is the best way to get into an aroused sexual state, by heightening our intimate sensations, and that foreplay sex also increases the chances of women reaching orgasm. But apparently there’s another sex play stage that most couples are missing out on.

According to Love guru Annabelle Knight in dailystar.co.uk, “afterplay” is actually the secret to maintaining an enjoyable experience in the bedroom.

Annabelle says if you usually end up rolling over and falling asleep after having sex, then you could be damaging your relationship. But by just engaging in a bit of afterplay, which simply involves spending a little more time with your partner after you had sex, you can help to strengthen your bond.

“If you think of sex as a long distance race, then foreplay is your warm up, the race itself is your sex session, and afterplay is your cool down. When you look at it like that it’s clear that it should be an important part of your sexual scenarios.” Annbelle said.

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“By including a longer post sex routine you may find it helps to boost your interest in sex altogether, resulting in better sex, and more of it,” Annabelle said in her interview, continuing, “The core of great sex is feeling emotionally and physically attached to your partner, this is why afterplay is so important, but it’s often marginalised or completely ignored, which can lead to ill feeling between partners.”

She added that the easiest way to dabble in afterplay is simply by kissing and cuddling after having sex. Or you can shower together, or by giving each another a massage, anything to extend the time of your physical contact after sex.

Another way to extend your afterplay after sex is to talk about what turned you both on during your lovemaking session. Just by discussing it with one another can lead to even better sexual experiences in your sex play future.

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Always Do These 9 Things Before Having Sex

  1. 9 Things You Should Always Do Before Having Sex  

    If you want to really feel ready before having sex, The Huffingtonpost said you need to follow their experts’ sex tip checklist before you play:

    • Hint at sex long before you have it
    • Have condoms ready
    • Stash lube by your bedside
    • Consider the details (lighting, candles, etc..)
    • Stimulate your brain (in the hours leading up to sex)
    • Forget about everything else – Make your to-do list and then put it away
    • Feel sexy – Do one thing that makes you feel sexier
    • Breath deep – Take a few deep breaths
    • Don’t rush – Start off slow and don’t forget the foreplay

    HuffPost South Africa (blog)

Ice Cubes During Sex – 3 Techniques To Avoid


  1. Three Techniques To Avoid if You Use Ice Cubes During Sex, Expert Says
     

    Using temperature during sex play involves using cold or hot objects to arouse sensitive areas of your bodies, and naturally ice cubes are an easy way to get a cool sensations. If you use ice cubes during sex, elitedaily.com says there are both safe and possibly dangerous ways to play with them, listing three techniques to avoid when using ice in the bedroom:

    1. Using ice straight out of the freezer.

    2. Inserting ice internally.

    3. Mistaking tingling sensations for arousal.

    In essence, before using ice on sensitive areas, first let it thaw out slightly, says sex educator Crista Crista, “t’s hard to tell the difference between fun shocking cold and damaging shocking cold.”

    Crista said you should proceed with “excessive caution” when using ice internally during sex play, and the ice should never be inserted for more than five minutes,

    Also, don’t get frostbite! “Pins and needles” sensations, burning or stinging are all warning signs of frostbite.

    A better way to use ice cubes into foreplay or sex play, elitedaily.com recommends, is to run the slightly melted ice lightly over lips, nipples, earlobes, wrists and fingers, inner thighs, down the spine and lower back and along the bottom feet.

     Elite Daily