Role play in foreplay enhances sexual experience

A user question in the column ‘Putting Dr G on the spot’” in the “health & wellness section of the Enquirer.net, a recently married women trying to conceive is concerned about her husband’s sexual performance. She wrote, “I think my husband is nervous and anxious, especially due to pressure from the family to have a baby. He tends to rush into the “business” and this can be a turn off for me, resulting in disappointment.”

“I initiated sex a few times, asking him to focus on foreplay and take things slower. I even suggested role-play in the foreplay to help us relax…My husband was excited with the whole idea, but simply clueless of where to start… what scenario would be best for role-play for beginners like us?

Dr.George Lee, a consultant Urologist and Clinical Associate Professor, answered that sexual role-play during foreplay is generally a good way to overcome such inhibition.

“Foreplay is generally considered intimate behavior between couples to generate emotional and physical readiness for sexual activities” Dr. G responded, “The initiation is by far the most important step in foreplay… The process can begin with non-physical gesture of whispering, teasing and flirting to generate sexual interests.”

Dr. G said it’s not uncommon for inexperienced newlywed couples to have sexual intimacy problems due to shyness and inhibitions, and since these sexual inhibitions can create a negative impact, certain people can feel uncomfortable and even think acts of kissing and caressing are intrusive. “Role play in foreplay is generally a good way to overcome such inhibition.”, Dr. George said.

He explained, “Physiologically, role-play of different scenario creates certain levels of confidence and trust between couples to intensify intimacy. Role-play can have strong erotic elements, involving couples to act out roles in sexual fantasy. Typical fantasy would be medical fetishism of doctor and nurse, or office scenario of executive and secretary.”

“The success of role-play in foreplay to enhance sexual experience is only achievable when both parties are willing to communicate and explore.”

The doctor quoted former NBA professional basketball player Michael Jordan, saying, “Just play, have fun and enjoy the game!”

Dr. G’s advice on role playing: “Just play, have fun and enjoy each other!”

12 sex games to spice up long winter nights

  1. Forget bingeing on box sets! Tracey Cox reveals 12 must-try sex games to spice up long winter nights  

    From making obscene phone calls to playing a sexy board game, relationship expert Tracey Cox lists 12 sex games to get you through the cold winter months.

    1) Make obscene phone calls – Cox advises one partner to make an obscene phone call to the other, like asking “What are you wearing?”.

    2) Dressing for sex – Suggest wearing something sexy when you go out, like a sexy bra, to remind you of the great sex you have have when you get home

    3) Tell a sexy story – Write down an erotic story (based on you and your partner), going into as much detail as possible, and leave it where the other can find it.

    4) Record yourselves having sex – Then play it back when you’re somewhere you can’t fool around

    5) Flash – Turn out the lights and light up one area of your own body with a flaslight. “Each lit body part must be touched, stroked and/or licked for two minutes, then the torch gets passed onto the next person.”

    6) Play dress up – Nurse outfits, cat suits, french maid – wear any role-playing outfits to push you out of your comfort zones.

    7) Fantasy dice – Write down and number six fantasies, when the dice lands on a number, they have to complete the corresponding fantasy.

    8) Be a sex therapist – Call from a separate room and act as a sex therapist, giving sex advice on how to pleasure his or her partner.

    9) No hands – Tie your partner’s hands together and ask him or her to seduce you.

    10) Play guinea pig – Line up all your sex toys for when your partner gets home, then try them out out and have him/her rate them.

    11) Play a board game – choose games that list sex activities you must perform on your partner.

    12) Play with food – Smear it, drip it, lick it.

    Daily Mail