“Ask Anna” is a sex column from chicagotribune.com. Because of the nature of the topic, some columns contain language some readers may find graphic.
When asked by a reader recently where she could find a woman who is into strap-on play sex where she lives (in a rural area), Anna replied that asking a stranger to meet your sexual needs is a big ask, and it requires a lot more finesse and patience than most people are willing to give it, “And the longer, more boring takeaway is: Play the long game”, Anna said.
“Some women will be undoubtedly interested in exploring strap-on play with you, even if they’ve never tried it before, AFTER they learn who you are and determine they can trust you enough to be somewhat vulnerable with you”.
Anna told her not to search specifically for “girls into strap-on play”, but instead to seek out women she might “click with” and who are open minded, then find out where your desires and their desires converge.
Sex is vulnerability, good sex is anyway, Anna said. With it comes the risk of rejection, judgment, humiliation and, yes, pleasure.
An online game that calls itself the “number one gaming website” that kids play shock six year old’s mother after her child found a “sex room” level, showing dozens of virtual characters having sexual intercourse.
“I was sitting next to her and noticed out of the corner of my eyes that one of the characters [had] breasts, so it made me look closer. Luckily she had absolutely no idea what she was looking at, but I would hate to think about what would have been said to her. I explained that they were not kids like her and that they were actually adults being naughty.”
The gaming platform, Roblox, lets players create and explore virtual worlds, where users that play can search for other player’s levels, create characters that interact using forums, chat rooms or personal messaging.
Suki Waterhouse strips NAKED to play sex android Ash
The 26 year old model and actress Suki Waterhouse stripped completely nude for the sci-fi drama ‘Future World’, as an android who is serving a Warlord leader (James Franco) as an assassin and sex slave. Suki also plays in a sex scene with actress Margarita Levieva.
Is It Safe To Have Sex In A Pool Or Hot Tub? Hand Jobs, Clitoris Sex Play OK, But Penetration?
A board certified sexologist says some sexual activities are safe for pools and hot tubs, but not all. Dr. Megan Stubbs, who holds six degrees in biology and human sexuality, said in elitedaily.com, “Manual sex like hand jobs and vulva or clitoris play are great in this aqueous environment. As far as penetrative (vaginal or anal) sex goes, I wouldn’t advise it.” Stubbs said that although having sex in pools, hot tubs or showers is often portrayed as fun and sexy, it’s “not as effortless or carefree as we have been led to believe.”
According to Stubbs, it’s also a known fact that latex in condoms is susceptible to weakening from extreme hot and cold temperatures, therefore the temperature of the water in a hot tub could compromise a condom’s effectiveness.
Dr. Lakeisha Richardson, a board certified obstetrician and gynecologist, also said in elitedaily.com that having sex in a pool or hot tub does not increase your risk of pregnancy or STIs, but “..the chemicals can weaken the latex or condom sheath and result in pregnancy or STIs due to perforations in the condom.”
You can still get pregnant
Stubbs also dais to elitedaily that although the water in a hot tub or pool may wash away your natural lubricant, it won’t going to rid your body of ejaculate. Having sex in water actually hinders your natural lubrication, which can lead to having more painful sex. “From the action of penetration, water will enter the vagina and wash away your natural lubrication and can potentially lead to microabrasions and painful sex.”
If you already have a yeast infection the hot tub will likely make it worse
And the chances of getting a UTI, yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis will increase.
Stubbs said a “happy medium” would be to start out with some foreplay in the water and then move to dry land for the main event.
