Psychology Today: Most Americans Have Tried Unconventional Sex

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Sex is adult play. Like in any playground, there are many possibilities, none better or worse than the other. it doesn’t matter how adults “twist the sheets”. It’s play. It’s pleasure, and erotic pleasure is uniquely individual.

Psychology Today says that what passes for “conventional lovemaking” today for some – heterosexual kissing, cuddling, vaginal intercourse and maybe some oral sex, most Americans have played with sex in other ways.

Some of their more interesting findings were:

More than half of American women own at least one vibrator.
Most Americans lose their virginity in their late teens, mostly around 17 years old, which is just one or two years later than today’s grandparents did.
Premarital sex is universal, 95 percent of Americans were not virgins on their wedding nights.
15 to 20 percent of American men patronize sex workers, prostitutes, at some point in their lives.
Eleven percent of Americans (around 30 million people) are not exclusively heterosexual.
Before age 50, 40 percent of Americans have experimented with oral-anal sex (analingus), penis-anus intercourse, sphincter massage, fingering or toy insertions.
Many Americans with chronic conditions and disabilities can’t play conventional sex roles and make love in other ways.
Many elderly lovers can’t accomplish intercourse, so they instead play sex with hand jobs, oral, toys, and even some other forms of kinky sex.
About 20 percent of American adults have had group sex, or engaged in threesomes, polyamory or swinging.
Indiana University researchers surveyed 2,021 American adults and found many enjoyed BDSM: spanking (30%), dominant/submissive role playing (22%), restraint (20%), whipping and flogging (13%). 43 percent had played sexually in public.
The number one erotic fantasy is to have sex with someone else other than one’s regular partner.

We all now must think long and hard before we label any sex play weird or deviant, there is no normal. So we must be careful when calling anything abnormal.

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We All Know What Foreplay is, But What is Afterplay

Sex Play; This is why after sex, AfterPlay is just as important as ForePlay

We all know that foreplay is the best way to get into an aroused sexual state, by heightening our intimate sensations, and that foreplay sex also increases the chances of women reaching orgasm. But apparently there’s another sex play stage that most couples are missing out on.

According to Love guru Annabelle Knight in dailystar.co.uk, “afterplay” is actually the secret to maintaining an enjoyable experience in the bedroom.

Annabelle says if you usually end up rolling over and falling asleep after having sex, then you could be damaging your relationship. But by just engaging in a bit of afterplay, which simply involves spending a little more time with your partner after you had sex, you can help to strengthen your bond.

“If you think of sex as a long distance race, then foreplay is your warm up, the race itself is your sex session, and afterplay is your cool down. When you look at it like that it’s clear that it should be an important part of your sexual scenarios.” Annbelle said.

“By including a longer post sex routine you may find it helps to boost your interest in sex altogether, resulting in better sex, and more of it,” Annabelle said in her interview, continuing, “The core of great sex is feeling emotionally and physically attached to your partner, this is why afterplay is so important, but it’s often marginalised or completely ignored, which can lead to ill feeling between partners.”

She added that the easiest way to dabble in afterplay is simply by kissing and cuddling after having sex. Or you can shower together, or by giving each another a massage, anything to extend the time of your physical contact after sex.

Another way to extend your afterplay after sex is to talk about what turned you both on during your lovemaking session. Just by discussing it with one another can lead to even better sexual experiences in your sex play future.

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Couples and Women LOVE the ‘Reverse Wheelbarrow’ Sex Position for Better Orgasms

Couples love the ‘Reverse Wheelbarrow’ sex position – and it gives women BETTER orgasms
Sticking to your same sexual routines can make your love life feel a little stale. But thankfully, there’s plenty of ways to re-ignite the fire in the bedroom, like trying out new sex positions!

The Daily Star suggests that if experimenting with new sex positions can make you feel a little intimidating, you can start with making small changes here and there. One way to do that is to adapt sex positions you’re already familiar with, like tweaking the wheelbarrow position, so it’s easier and more enjoyable.

The wheelbarrow requires a good level of athleticism. To do it correctly one partner has to lie flat with their hands in press up position.The ‘penetrater’ then lifts up the legs before doing their thing. Because the move requires a lot of balance and upper body strength it just isn’t for everyone.

But thankfully, as sex expert Tracey Cox said in the Daily Mail, there’s a way to make it easier and more enjoyable. Tracey advises women to lie on their backs instead of using their arms for balance. Then, “He kneels on a hard surface, keeping his back straight, in praying position. You lie in front of him, genitals facing him.”

“He then lifts your legs up to his shoulders, so your weight is supported on your shoulders. Holding his erection downwards, he penetrates and holds you in position by wrapping his arms around your upper thighs.”

For women that find it difficult to reach an orgasm this position could be the one for her,. It allows for short and shallow thrusts, targeting some of the most sensitive areas of the body.

Ms. Cox said, “The Reverse Wheelbarrow looks impressive and because penetration is shallow, the focus stays on the head of his penis (the most sensitive part) and the first inch of the vaginal entrance, which is where all your nerve endings are located.”

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Young woman tells why she naps in diapers

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While researching adult women who like to play with their childhood toys, a 24 years young Oregon girl started dressing as a baby to escape her adult worries, and she shares her life on Instagram to spread awareness and meet other people who love the subculture as much as she does.

Heidi is a ‘little’, which means she plays the part of a baby in the Adult Baby Diaper Lovers (ABDL) and Daddy Dom/Little Girl subcultures. But baby play isn’t sexual for Heidi, unlike some who take part in the culture, she says “When I have sex, I am my normal, adult self.”

Heidi usually spends an hour or more each day doing baby play, where she’ll wear her hair in pigtails and dress up in pink children’s outfits and wear a nappy, then play with toys while moving around like a one to three year old child would.

Heidi explained to Metro.co.uk, “”What attracted me to this lifestyle is how confident and proud everyone was about who they were.”

“Since I was 18, I have roleplayed as a baby without knowing there were others like me out there. I immediately felt comforted that there was a whole group of people out there that would love and accept me for who I am.”

Continuing, “When I roleplay as a baby, I put on a diaper, a onesie and some baby lotion. I also have adult sized pacifiers. I do not use the diaper, it simply helps me get into the headspace. I’ll play with toys such as blocks, stuffed animals, dolls, or dress up. I can be silly and jump on the bed, or quiet and sleepy. When I’m little, I forget about any adult problem I may have had. I also go to a local bi-monthly meetup for littles and their caregivers. It’s at a private venue, so we all wear our baby clothes, watch cartoons, and do crafts. I always look forward to seeing my little friends.”

Heidi said ‘Little Space’ is, “a state of mind where you can regress to your childhood. All I can do to combat this misconception is explain in a calm, adult manner what our community really is”.

“Another misconception is that adult babies are babies 24/7. In reality, only an hour or two a day is spent being little. I still go to work, pay my bills, cook and clean. My first word of advice is to be confident in who you are. Second, there is no right or wrong way to be little. You can wear all pink, or you can wear only black. You don’t have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.”

“Third, find a few friends online who are into the same things you are.”