Can Kinky Sex Play be the Secret to Your Success

  1. Kinky Sex Could Be the Secret to Your Success  

    According to HarpersBazaar.com, having kinky sex might just be the secret to your success. Recent research confirms that if you desire kinky sex, it can benefit you not only in the bedroom, but outside of it as well.

    Unconventional sexual practices and fantasies like BDSM, group sex and role play have been shown to reduce psychological stress, improve mental health, and can even help you to have satisfying and communicative relationships. And believe it or not, they say kinky people have also been found to have higher self-worth than those who are too afraid or ashamed to pursue their fantasies!

    Jamila Dawson, a Los Angeles-based sex therapist specializing in kink and polyamory, told the online magazine that a healthy relationship to kink can “absolutely be the underlying cause of some people’s success. I see this all the time in my practice.”

    That’s probably all we need to know! But if you want too read the entire article, including seeing their cool graphics describing the benefits of being a DOM and a Sub, and all the other benefits of kinky sex play, go here HarpersBAZAAR.com

Are the Schneiderman Allegations Sexual Role-Play, or Abuse

  1. Schneiderman Allegations Aren’t Sexual ‘Role-Playing’ – They’re Abuse  

    When multiple women accused the former Attorney General of assault, he said it was BDSM. But that’s not what sex play looks like.

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  2. Eric Schneiderman and Men Who Excuse Violence As ‘Kink’  The Cut
  3. ‘Brown Slave’: Disgraced Eric Schneiderman Was Apparently Into Racist Role Playing During Sex  News One
  4. The Problem With ‘Feminist’ Men  New York Times
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How Consent and BDSM Role-Play Actually Works

  1. Here’s How Consent and BDSM Role-Play Should Actually Work

    Role playing means two people have a conversation and decide, “I think this sounds really hot, now how can we sensibly play this out?”

    But you have to negotiate before you start playing. When you negotiate, you talk transparently about what you like, your no-go zones, and you say what you might or might not be be okay with.

    If you slap, learn how to do it safely and be prepared to support each other emotionally. An article in thecut.com explains, in great detail, ways to enjoy BDSM and sexual role play without crossing the line, including:

    • Responsible BDSM players do not negotiate or play while intoxicated.
    • A master-slave contract takes time, thought, and sensitivity to negotiate.
    • Race play requires extra-sensitive negotiation and consent.
    • All roeplay requires an affirmative yes from both partners to all planned activities.
    • Always establish a safe word.
    • Accidents happen even when there is consent and proper preparation, but there’s a way to deal with that.
    • Consent is ongoing, and it can be rescinded at any time.

     The Cut

8 BDSM Sex Tips For Total Beginners

  1. 8 BDSM Sex Tips to Try If You’re a Total Beginner 

    If you’re curious about the erotic sexual power play of BDSM but don’t quite feel ready enough yet to invest and play in a full scale dungeon, Allure.com magazine just listed some of the BDSM sex tips and advice that you can try if you are a total beginner:

    1. Talk through your interests and boundaries
    2. Try out some dirty talk
    3. Add a blindfold
    4. Explore orgasm control
    5. Buy a massage candle
    6. Learn the ropes
    7. Slip on a pair of handcuffs
    8. Play dress-up

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    There is no shame in being new to BDSM. “BDSM doesn’t require any money,” sex therapist Michael Aaron told Allure. “Much of it is psychological, and if you are looking for impact play, many people feel like no toy beats their hands anyway, and that’s free. Likewise, various household items such as rope and clothespins can be used in scenes, and they hardly cost anything at all.”